I’m speaking the Truth to break the silence.
True tolerance means that people with differing — even opposing — viewpoints can freely exchange ideas and respectfully listen to each other.
It’s time for an honest conversation about homosexuality.
There’s freedom to change if you want to.
Let’s talk.

You are invited to join Randall & Stacy tonight at 5 PM Pacific time for our Sunday night BlogTV show. I will be posting the show here so you can watch it live either through this website, or if you go here you will be able to watch and chat with us live. See you then!

Before I went to bed tonight I was checking my email, and this email appeared in my inbox with the subject line: Hello.

It’s from someone named Timothy Smith, but who knows if this is his real name. That’s not the point anyway, the point of me sharing this with you is so you can see the literal hate that comes my way because I simply oppose the homosexual agenda. It appears this guy wants me dead and is implying that if he ever were to meet me, he’d make sure of it. You decide for yourself.

Those of you who are praying Christians, please pray for this guy.

The left side…

The other side…

The full email in case you get confused and can’t read the two parts above.

Timothy Smith writes…
You have got to be the ugliest piece of shit I’ve ever encountered. Your obsession with gay men is really bizarre. I guess you’re just another fag-hag who can’t make it with a straight men so you focus your anger on gay ones. Here’s a little clue sister…I don’t give a shit about your holy-roller attitude…and…if we ever encounter each other in public….I guarantee you’ll find out what it feels like to get some of that good old “hatred” right back in your ugly mug! BTW….I’d rather piss on your grave than give you the time of day! CUNT!

Life is Good!!

The interesting thing about this, aside from it being just plain crude, is that he says he would rather “tinkle” (my word, not his) on my grave than give me the time of day, and yet, he took time to write me this nasty email.

Girls, eat your heart out. This is Jeremy Hooper and he’s a pretty handsome guy if I do say so myself. However, he likes guys. Bummer I know.

Well, the reason for this post is two fold. First, it appears Jeremy and I had a slight misunderstanding. See he posted a pretty goofy picture of me the other day, and I know he could’ve posted something better if he had wanted to. But he didn’t. That’s okay.

I was just having some fun when I changed the color on a previous picture I posted of him. I made it a little red, because I wanted you to see his sparkling blue eyes. But, it appears that Jeremy wasn’t too happy about it, so he posted about it on his blog. I’m actually surprised it warranted a whole blog post, but hey, sometimes silly things are fun to write about….

Here are a few comments on his recent post I particularly enjoyed.

I just don’t think she was happy with it, Emproph.

I actually thought it was kind of cute. She had this sort of sly smile that fit the attitude of the audio that accompanied it.

Posted by: G-A-Y | Apr 25, 2008 9:12:23 AM

Gee, it’s nice to know a gay man thinks I’m “kind of cute”. Thanks Jeremy.

Well it is only fair to note that in the emails we have been exchanging this morning, she has been cordial. And as she’s learned more about me and my views, her frankness has grown.

Honestly, I think she was in attack mode, and therefore interpreted the pic I used of her and the “pop art” one I used of Matt as me wanting to demean their appearance. While again, I fully admit that I thought the pic of her looked cute and silly, making a negative comment about her looks was never my intent.

Posted by: G-A-Y | Apr 25, 2008 10:51:32 AM

Me, in attack mode? Nope, it was simply a wrong assumption. But can you believe it, Jeremy actually says that picture of me was “cute and silly”. Like I told him, I laughed when I saw it.

And then there’s Mary. Mary is a lesbian who made this comment on Jeremy’s post. Read it and then I’ll tell you the real truth about Mary.

I tried to ask her a question through email and she said she didn’t have time to write email and I was to visit her on some sort of google chat (I’m sure to do a rant sound bite). She then proceeded to write away at me in about 4 more emails…..never answering any questions. She is in her little twisted world.

Oh, and Jeremy, when getting a tan, stick with 10 minutes at first…you seem to burn too fast.

Posted by: Mary (Marndt22@hotmail.com) | Apr 25, 2008 11:10:14 AM

Let me tell you a little something about Mary since she has so freely attacked me on Jeremy’s blog. Here’s the email she sent me 3 days ago, in its entirety. And keep in mind that I had never heard of Mary Arndt before this. This is what I do know about Mary Arndt though – she is from Iowa, is a lesbian, and apparently works with animals in some capacity, either in the humane society or a vets office. This is what she wrote out of her own anger. All of her spelling errors are kept as she wrote them.

Mary Arndt to me
show details Apr 22 (3 days ago)

Do you really believe in what you wrote “…there may be a few homosexuals or lesbians who will tell you that they have never had issues and they were just “born that way”, but don’t believe it for a second.” When speaking about sexual abuse?

Is it christianlike to call people liars?

I hope you know you contradict yourself. It is as if you are saying all people who are sexually abused will have gay lives; yet you are saying you have been abused and don’t. Which is it?

I have never been abused. Had loving parents, served my country for 20 years, took higher education, have a good job that serves my community, own property and pay taxes. If you passed me in the street what would you do or think of me? If I then told you I was a lesbian, what would you then do or think? Tell me what had changed in that conversation to make you come so unglued? Sad. What had changed about my history and being part of the community?

I heard your ‘conversation’ with Joe Brummer (sp?). You could have been dicussing puppies and I would take his side. You called not to talk, but to rant. My 12yo breaks into conversations/arguments when she really does not want to hear the other side.

Couples get together for companionship and love. That can be emotionall, supportive and physical. Would you like it if your significant other as just there for sex? Are you not committed to each other. Should I pass you on the street and not see a family but think sex sex sex?

Please, nothing is all about sex…except recent rants.

I could see what Joe was getting at. It is an understanding from kids. I believe kids are smarter then you think. If you hold them back, they will still break away from the thought police. Perhaps back in the 50’s in several southern towns there were those who thought. “heaven forbid we teach black/white tollerance to 3 year olds!”

Three year olds are clueless on sex, but they can see a couple and KNOW they are a couple. Why can’t you see a couple and KNOW they are a couple, as in a loving relationship. What really scares you so much? I can actually picture you bending over to a 3yo who has just asked a 3yo’s kind of question about a same-sex couple and you saying ‘don’t look or you can burn in hell too’. sad.

And so despite Mary Arndt’s obvious inability to actually read what I wrote correctly or ability to understand the truth behind the call that was done almost 2 years ago ( I didn’t know 2 years was recent), I wrote Mary the following email in response…despite her obvious hostility in her email.

Mary,
If you’re really looking for my opinion, feel free to contact me anytime on Google Talk and I’d be happy to talk to you.

My name is stacyharp – that should be easy for you to remember.
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And I was serious. If Mary had truly wanted me to clarify her points in that email, I would have gladly spoken to her. Instead, she wrote this back to me.

Mary Arndt to me

I know your opinion, I just wanted a response to my email which you didn’t feel you needed to do. But, don’t worry, I won’t call you unexpected and rant at you, I have values.

See, here is the proof that Mary really wasn’t interested in me answering her rant. So here’s how I replied to Mary in my next email.

Hi Mary,So, in other words, you really weren’t looking for my opinion. I’m not surprised.
I may even publish your email.
Stacy

This is when Mary became even more hostile and tried to get me to believe she may be an attorney or at a minimum associated with one. This is her next email. She’s a little unhinged here.

Boy you do spin it in your mind. I did ask you questions — you didn’t answer them, so in a way that was your response. My original email is still attached if you would like to answer them now. I authorize you to use my email only if it is complete down to the last period and as presented within the context of this email setting with all addresses obscured. You never know, perhaps I serve my community as an attorney and haud regnum applies (Bolster v. Jackson).

Now, what exactly did I spin in my mind again? I offered to answer her attack email and she didn’t want to, and yet she says I spun it in my mind…

So then I wrote her this response…

Actually I offered to answer your questions via an actual talk through gmail, as opposed to wasting my time typing out my answers.

I think you protest too much

So then Mary Arndt responded again…

I don’t have time to be ranted at in google talk for which I don’t even subscribe. So, I won’t waste any more of your time. I rescind my authorization to use any or all of my correspondence with you.

First she attacks me in email. Then she doesn’t listen to my response. Then she gives me authorization. Then she tries to make me believe she’s an attorney and then this email.

Have you noticed that Mary is the one with the issues here? She initiates a conversation with me and when I was willing to talk to her about her email, she get’s all angry!

Well, I wrote her back…

So, in other words, you weren’t really serious about wanting my opinion, but you just wanted to vent. Got it.

I may write about that, with your email or without your email. It will depend on my mood at the moment.

I do guess that it must be hard for you to be so wrong about things, living as you do. And my guess is that you weren’t expecting me to respond to your hateful email. But you were wrong, as you will be about anything concerning me. I’m not threatened easily nor intimidated.

Which is funny because I don’t know you, and yet, you felt an intense need to contact me, based on gossip and lies and a recorded phone call that was sent around without my permission. Wonder if your so called “legal” expertise would apply to that….

Hopefully someday you will repent of your sin and turn your life around. Because it will clear your thinking and perspective on things. I’m sure you have disappointed and hurt many in your life because of your choices. You should be ashamed of yourself Mary.

And then I ended it with a final email asking her the following, “P.S. Just out of curiosity, do you like animals? Like dogs or cats….

My cat is really sick and I thought maybe you’d have some information that can help. Let me know.”

So what does Mary then do…. She writes her lies on Jeremy’s blog.

And let me be clear on one thing, I have no problem speaking to any homosexual or lesbian who wants to honestly talk. But the problem is that people like Mary are the types of people in that community that I run across. And I find it rather ironic because she was all bent out of shape and apparently needed to vent, and doesn’t see the log in her own eyes.

Let me also clarify one point in my email, lest I’m attacked again and called a liar. I gave consent to ONE homosexual to post the phone call. Jeremy didn’t have consent and neither did anyone else. This is all I’m referring to when I said what I said to Mary in my second to last email.

The record stands.